Nonviolent Communication – A Language of Life, 3rd edition
by Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D.
2015; 280 pages; paperbound
Now offering the latest edition of the communication guide that has sold more than 1,000,000 copies!
Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is founded on language and communication skills that strengthen our ability to remain human, even under trying conditions. It contains nothing new; all that has been integrated into NVC has been known for centuries. The intent is to remind us about what we already know – about how we humans were meant to relate to one another – and to assist us in living in a way that concretely manifests this knowledge.
Nonviolent Communication guides us in re-framing how we express ourselves and hear others. Instead of being habitual, automatic reactions, our words become conscious responses based firmly on an awareness of what we are perceiving, feeling, and wanting. We are led to express ourselves with honest and clarity, while simultaneously paying others a respectful and empathic attention.
In any exchange, we come to hear our own deeper needs and those of others. NVC trains us to observe carefully, and to be able to specify behaviors and conditions that are affecting us. We learn to identify and clearly articulate what we are concretely wanting in a given situation. The form is simple, yet powerfully transformative.
As Nonviolent Communication replaces our old patterns of defending, withdrawing, or attacking in the face of judgment and criticism, we come to perceive ourselves and others, as well as our intentions and relationships, in a new light. Resistance, defensiveness and violent reactions are minimized. When we focus on clarifying what is being observed, felt and needed rather than on diagnosing and judging, we discover the depth of our own compassion.
Through its Emphasis on deep listening – to ourselves as well as others – NVC is fosters respect, attentiveness and empathy, and engenders a mutual desire to give from the heart.
Nonviolent communication helps:
- Individuals break patterns of thinking that lead to anger, depression and violence.
- Families and couples improve the quality of their relationships.
- School systems create healthy respect for diversity and differences.
- Co-workers communicate in a way that increases goodwill and cooperation.
- Health-care professionals develop systems that support compassion.
- Social service agencies find ways to meet needs constructively.
- Police, military and prison personnel prevent and peacefully resolve conflicts.